Listening With Your Heart1 Comment January 14, 2008 / Posted in Mindfulness
The words of the Little Prince say it best:
It is with the heart that one sees rightly
For what is essential is invislbe to the eye.
I can’t remember the name of the comedian who made the statement: The brain is the most important organ in the human body. He paused a few moments and added: Hmmmmm, who’s giving me that information.
Dr. Mimi Guarneri in her book: The Heart Speaks addresses the power when we speak or when we listen from the heart. HeartMath delivers the message about training and retraining our hearts when we are dealing with feelings and emotions knowing that “a change of heart changes everything.”
Last week one of the readings from the Daily Om talked about changing the way we listen and the importance of moving from head to heart to see the interconnectedness of us and the world in which we live.
January 11, 2008
Listening With Your Heart
Most of us were born and raised in cultures that value the head over the heart and, as a result, we place our own hearts below our heads in a sort of inner hierarchy of which we may not be conscious. What this means is that we tend to listen and respond from the neck up, often leaving the rest of our bodies with little or no say in most matters. This is a physical habit, which sometimes feels as ingrained as the way we breathe or walk. However, with effort and awareness, we can shift the energy into our hearts, listening and responding from this much deeper, more resonant place.
The brain has a masterful way of imposing structure and order on the world, creating divisions and categories, devising plans and strategies. In many ways, we have our brains to thank for our survival on this planet. However, as is so clear at this time, we also need the wisdom of our hearts if we wish to continue surviving in a viable way. When we listen from our heart, the logical grid of the brain tends to soften and melt, which enables us to perceive the interconnectedness beneath the divisions and categories we use to organize the world. We begin to understand that just as the heart underlies the brain, this interconnectedness underlies everything.
Many agree that this is the most important work we can do at this time in history, and there are many practices at our disposal. For a simple start, try sitting with a friend and asking him to tell you about his life at this moment. For 10 minutes or more, try to listen without responding verbally, offering suggestions, or brainstorming solutions. Instead, breathe into your heart and your belly, listening and feeling instead of thinking. When you do this, you may find that it’s much more difficult to offer advice and much easier to identify with the feelings your friend is sharing.
You may also find that your friend opens up more, goes deeper, and feels he has really been heard. If you also feel great warmth and compassion, almost as if you are seeing your friend for the first time, then you will know that you have begun to tap the power of listening with your heart
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